| How to listen and give your angry loved one control when grieving? |
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ARTICLE SUMMARY Screaming at the nurse the patient shouted “Come here now so I can choke you!” Anger is the response your loved one is using to gain control of the situation that they are grieving from. This anger makes them feel in control at the moment, and may dissipate if they are allowed to express it. How to Listen and give your loved one control
How to listen and give your angry loved one control when grieving? FULL ARTICLE Screaming at the nurse the patient shouted “Come here now so I can choke you!” Anger is the response your loved one is using to gain control of the situation that they are grieving from. This anger makes them feel in control at the moment, and may dissipate if they are allowed to express it. Compassion shown by you towards your loved one will help relieve their anger. Do not judge them by their outbursts as they are carrying a burden we may not understand. Continue to show respect for your loved one. Try to understand things from their perspective – try to understand their thoughts, their fears, and their anxieties. Be patient with these outbursts. Give your loved one your full attention. Spend time with them, even as difficult as it may seem. Acceptance of anger that is irrational or not justified by the situation will help you gain control of the situation, and help you maintain your presence of mind. Facing your own death is a good way to put yourself in your loved one’s place. What anger and grief would you express if the tables were turned and you faced your death? By facing your death you become better equipped to help your loved on thru this stage of grief. It is easy to relate to someone who is experiencing the same thoughts and feelings and grief. Let this become a bridge for you and your loved one to help them control their own grief. |