| How Do I Talk to My Dying Loved One? |
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ARTICLE SUMMARY Sharing the truth is the key to talking with someone facing the end of life. What the dying want is your presence – not just being there physically, but also being there spiritually and emotionally. How do I start to talk with my loved one?
Listen carefully – often clues to what a person is feeling can be hidden, and not easily recognized. Don’t be embarrassed if you run out of things to say. That is why being present physically is so important at the end of life. Use this time for silent prayer. Time is limited – so give what you have, your time, and your love. How do I talk to my dying loved one? FULL ARTICLE Sharing the truth is the key to talking with someone facing the end of life, just as it is the key to any communications throughout life. What the dying want is your presence – not just being there physically, but also being there spiritually and emotionally. This requires truth in all communications. One good way to start is the following: “I have noticed (describe what you have observed) - Are you feeling ok?” You should share your feelings, fears, and hopes. You can discuss your loved one’s illness and the care they will need. Go ahead and start a pattern of talking with your family about the challenges you all are facing. Try to talk some about the time when your love will be gone - it makes it easier on you and your family. Make some specific plans for the time near death. Routine conversations such as what is going on in your life can keep the communication open. But follow what your loved one is feeling – if certain topics bring are uncomfortable or painful, it may be best to avoid them until they are ready. These simple words can open up a new avenue to your relationship that you never though could exist before now. You don’t have to force the topics – allow the talk to go where it will. Listen carefully – often clues to what a person is feeling can be hidden, and not easily recognized. Don’t be embarrassed if you run out of things to say. That is why being present physically is so important. Sometimes it is enough to just be there, hold their hand, and say nothing. Their time is limited – so give what you have, your time, and your love. |