| What emotional baggage do I need to let go as my love faces death? |
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ARTICLE SUMMARY Healing of past wounds may be some of the heaviest emotional baggage that you carry as our loved one is facing death and dying. Whether you caused the pain, he or she caused the pain, or both, the baggage of wounds will not heal until forgiveness is completed. Examples of emotional baggage when facing death and dying:
You may now have a gift of limited time in which to show caring or sympathy. You do have the power to make things right, to right the wrongs, as your loved one faces death and dying. What emotional baggage do I need to let go as my love faces death? FULL ARTICLE Healing of past wounds may be some of the heaviest emotional baggage that you carry as our loved one is facing death and dying. Whether you caused the pain, he or she caused the pain, or both, the baggage of wounds will not heal until forgiveness is completed. Emotional baggage could include messages of forgiveness, healing of past wounds, of anger unresolved, or guilt, Sometimes the best you can do is not to make matters worse by demanding apologies, or a reckoning of the bad behaviors of your dying loved one. Accept the dying for who they are. Blaming your loved one for something that happened in the past will not heal the old wounds. It is said it takes two to tango – seek for truth in your own heart to see if you had a part in feeding the situation. If so, perhaps you should be seeking forgiveness from your loved one facing death and dying. Concern for your own well being when your loved one is gone could be baggage as well. You must take care of yourself. Prepare for your life without your loved one by proper planning – include your loved one in planning for your own future. Talk with your loved one facing death and dying about these issues and refer to the planning section in this book for more information. Lack of caring or lack of sympathy on your part or your loved one’s part may be additional baggage. You may now have a gift of limited time in which to show caring or sympathy – or in reverse, to forgive your loved on for the lack of caring and sympathy. Either way, you do have the power to make things right, to right the wrongs, as your loved one faces death and dying. |